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One Year of No Contact
Cue the fireworks, champagne, and noise makers, we are celebrating one year of no contact! That may sound harsh to anyone who has never dealt with a toxic family member or maybe it sounds harsh even if you have. If you have gone through so much damage and have had to rebuild yourself, you may…
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Happiness After Trauma
Going through something traumatic can really mess you up. That is just the simplest way to say it. You may forget what happiness feels like. When you aren’t anxious, depressed, overwhelmed, and feeling miserable, you just feel numb. Feeling numb starts to mistake itself for happiness. You yearn for the numbness so that you don’t…
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The Light at the End of the Tunnel
This is for anyone who thinks that they will never make it out of the darkness. This is for the survivors of any type of abuse or mistreatment. They say that there is light at the end of the tunnel. When you’re in the midst of pure darkness, it can be hard to believe it.…
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I Am Not a Victim
I absolutely refuse to be a long-term victim. It makes me cringe. I don’t want pity or for people to look at me remorsefully. It is great if people are understanding and compassionate, but I am okay now. I survived. If anything, call me a survivor. Or just call me my name. What I went…
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Those That Were Silent
In my experience, one of the extra little difficulties of being emotionally abused is figuring out how to handle the people that stayed silent. I still don’t know if I have a good, solid answer. I don’t really know how to handle the people that sat back while I went through what I did. I…
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Why We Don’t Talk About It
Why don’t we talk about things that are not pretty? Why do we post our “highlight” reels and leave out all of the grimy stuff that we go through? Think about it. As a society, it is subtly frowned upon to open up about hardship. We are supposed to keep it to ourselves, go to…
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Surviving Postpartum (Monster-in-Law Edition)
Giving birth is life changing. Not only does the whole process of a baby exiting your body change you, but so does becoming a parent. Becoming a mom to a tiny human changes everything. Suddenly, nothing else in the world matters besides that new little person. It is truly magical. Yet, even though there is…
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Why You Cannot Skip Healing
When you go through something traumatic it can change the way you think, act, and feel. You most likely will not feel the same way as you did before the incident. It may have even been so bad that you are unable to recognize the person looking back at you in the mirror. After enduring…
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When To Go ‘No Contact’
Deciding to go no contact is not always an easy or straightforward decision. Typically it is something that you heavily think through and debate on for awhile before you eventually realize that it is the only choice you have left to make. If you are unfamiliar with the term, no contact means to cut ties…
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Five Ways I Healed From Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is downright awful, but it is also… strange. It can be difficult to recognize. I began to realize I was being emotionally abused after months of enduring it. In my case, my abuser was a person outside of my home, but someone who still held power over me, or so I had believed.…
Allyson Bennett 